Many people
discuss personal problems
with me. I am comfortable discussing either
male or female sexual problems and I'm
sure they feel at ease with me, assisting
the more natural process to return.
Frequently
modern
medicine tries to treat
a symptom without finding
the cause
by prescribing such items as Viagra. Looking for the cause is the first thing I
consider; the person is
usually experiencing the effects.
There are
rare instances where an organic, hormonal or physical cause
is the case,
but according to a sex
therapy manual the incidence is less than 15%.
Recently a
male client told me that he
had been to
two sex clinics and had
not been
offered any counseling. The substance, by injection to the
penis
produced the desired
erection when the conditions were 'right', but they
seemed to neglect help in any
other way. He was, however, praiseworthy
of his doctor who had organized
various tests to see if any medical problem existed. I like to know if my
client has had such medical tests – it’s when doctor says “nothing wrong” then
they may see me.
Basically I suggest to the client
that the mind is the sex organ, as
many people don't recognize this and of
course it directs the penis to perform accordingly. It is very necessary
to reduce anxiousness, to understand realistic
expectations and begin a re-leaning
process. It's surprising how relaxation techniques reduce blood
pressure and also improve the client's
outlook in other ways. Even blood flow in a natural way to the important
erogenous parts may be enhanced. I may suggest an herbal product to add to our
mind dynamics.
Treating clients with this problem
suffice to say that confidence can return
along with the normal ability to
function in a healthy way.
What about
an exercise? Sit and
think about
the part your mind
plays,
especially in its power to
cause a
belief to take over that 'You
can't
perform', and how it gets reinforced
every time you think about
it.
Remember it
is not a stage performance, hence I work on reframing and rephrasing this word –
it’s just about enjoying intimacy and that does not always have to be direct
genital contact. I spend a lot of time with my people educating as often they
have misconceptions having learned about sexology in an inappropriate way.
Probably the main one is to learn that a couple can “enjoy the journey; the
destination is really just a bonus”.
I hope you
will agree that the same
mind that caused the problem is the same mind
that can heal or remedy it. Not unusual is a put down especially at a
heated moment such as “you’re no good” or “not a real man” – such negatives can
go deep and the cause is often as simple as this. My message is
suggesting that looking into the natural
methods you could save money and feel lot more accomplished in yourself.
Please stay confident, be
patient, relaxed and calm and have
fun.
WHAT CAN
HYPNOSIS HELP?
Not only is
it the male impotence or premature ejaculation, but all aspects of sexual
behavior and fantasy for both sexes, including frigidity. It’s somewhat
surprising that many women have told me they have never experienced an orgasm.
Do not
hesitate to ask questions, email or phone.
John