Guilt
– is largely
negative and self-punishment
When clients come to me a frequent
expression is they are full of
guilt – I wonder why?
It becomes much clearer as to why this
continued feeling has developed when we discuss their
various topics and issues and clarify the difference.
Installing guilt has always been a part
of our childhood training. When we did something “wrong” we
were told we should feel bad and be ashamed and the
inference meant to feel guilty. It is as if we were
compelled to install a silent policeman in our heads – so
destroying to our own natural development and motivation.
Kid’s behavior often is dangerous,
negative or anti-social – isn’t life a learning experience,
especially when thought nowadays that our brains are not
fully developed until our early twenties? That does not mean
we have to behave in an antisocial way either. Our intuitive
consciousness is a guide to what is generally accepted as
right or wrong. I expect during life if we violate the rules
or laws we would expect to be punished and then go through
the process of rehabilitation within ourselves to eventually
feel whole and adequate again.
However most descriptions of my clients
feelings of Guilt and resultant Shame is self destructive
because when there is none around to do the punishing, we do
it ourselves as we have to live with ourselves 24 hours a
day the punishing goes on ad infinitum.
So is it really tearing you apart?
What can I as a Hypnotherapist do to help
you overcome this destructive process, which your immune
system doesn’t like, or want either?
It is so important to be able to let the
body look after itself and is drained by continual strain on
its resources, generally known by modern buzzwords as
stress, anxiety, pressure, and of course fear, guilt and
shame.
Can you relate to my reasoning and
testimonies?
For example a self-imposed workaholic – a
workaholic is guilty when not working because early
conditioning may have taught that it is a sin to be idle.
It is debilitating
process – guilt, shame and worry about being discovered
about doing something that they think others won’t approve.
How ridiculous some perceptions can be! Does it really
matter what other’s think - is there such a thing as reality
or is it just perception? I think it is simply PERCEPTION
and how we react to our thoughts and ill-founded beliefs.
OUR EARLY SEXUAL EDUCATION
Were you brought up with some guilt
feelings about your sexuality?
A person whose sexual learning was
healthy and appear well adjusted to life and relationship
can still have vivid sexual fantasies when they are both
asleep and awake (not just the male of the species).
Somewhat like fetishes, fantasies don’t
really do harm unless other people are affected by their
type of behavior. As most fantasies don’t involve anything
that could be classed as negative or destructive, the bad
feeling comes about by the incredible guilt training about
sex.
How many organizations supposedly based
on love are using this powerful, destructive weapon as a way
of getting control and conformity? It can only be described
as a powerful, destructive weapon.
WOULD YOU ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS
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Is my thinking rational?
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Is it real or unreal?
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Does it serve my needs?
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Does it protect me in any way?
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Does it need to change?
You may now be aware of your automatic
pre-programmed thoughts after answering and may even begin
to adjust your thinking.
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WHEN YOU SEE ME I USE HYPNOANALYSIS TO
GET PAST IT AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE GUILT FREE.
FOOTNOTE
I acknowledge the work of Bert Weir and
give credit for his lecturing, mentoring and also his
excellent book titled YOU WERE BORN SPECIAL, BEAUTIFUL AND
WONDERFUL – WHAT HAPPENED? ISBN 0 646 13376 4
Address – Weir Knightsbridge 29 Beatrice
Street Bardon Qld. Australia 4065
Many of my clients have purchased this
book upon my suggestion