BENEFITS THAT ARE HIDDEN
WHAT GOOD CAN FLOW ON FROM A VISIT TO ME?
All about a migraine and the power we have
within!
Worry produces feelings that the body may
or may not be able to handle long term producing some unwanted bodily or
somatic effects.
An example - a lady in final school year
recently overcame her “need” to have a migraine just before the oncoming exam.
Before that she would often miss the
tests and be laid up as this condition was debilitating with the need to rest
quite often in a darkened room as the eyes become very sensitive. This young
lady felt that she might be going blind, thus exacerbating the worry, stress
and pain.
Amazingly she came to this realization
all on her own quite easily with a bit of my guidance. I once heard of a
similar situation where the person had no knowledge of the availability of
therapy, hypnotherapy or counseling yet realized the underlying cause. Yes,
she realized that in her words “If I got a headache I couldn’t study and if I
didn’t study I had an excuse for doing poorly.”
So she realized her migraines were about
saving face! - As simple as that.
Both however, went a step further and
realized what was going on – perhaps doing what is often said “listening to
the body” and applying the affirming messages along with a positive attitude,
overturning this situation and becoming good scholars. All this happened
fairly quickly. Is it not obvious that the mind can play tricks for the
unwary? Is it that migraine is a much more emotional and life style issue than
a physical illness? I think that is so.
Once this may have been called a
secondary gain (a by-product of an otherwise negative situation) to what I now
call “Hidden or Buried Benefits”.
Such a benefit is performing a secret
service – giving you that hidden advantage to an otherwise undesirable
condition.
Previously the generated excuse was “I’m
too sick to study”
By allowing the conscious, rational mind
to question – O.K. what’s going on here – is all the pain worth suffering?”
By identifying the payoff and seeing the
illogic of it all, the pain (once somewhat overbearing), has now been
alleviated.
One might say a cure, yet I do not that
word in my work. We have worked on it to reach a satisfactory outcome.
No one wants pain but it can bring with
it some goodies such as attention, caring, even sometimes monetary
compensation, and love as well as distractions.
Buried benefits may be the reason why you
are not moving forward in your life despite your good efforts, you may be
holding on to your stuck ness for many reasons most of which have to do with
fear.
Are such reasons among this list?
Fear of responsibility, new situations,
being seen, of success, of failure or making mistake, fear of being found out,
fear of losing love, fear of giving up guaranteed income.
The buried benefit does keep you from
facing your fear and venturing outside that comfort zone that can turn
uncomfortable as our story has revealed.
Hypnotherapy can be of enormous help,
especially to go directly to the hiding, storage places where buried benefits
lurk, in the subconscious, and in the energy system.
By dealing at root level, symptoms,
unwanted behavior and stuck places means that you can create lasting change
and forward movement, releasing the blockage.
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