Anger - Why is it
so?
My belief is that the reason for your anger it is
not what you think! Especially not the things you have blamed on
someone – is goes deeper and we must explore the underlying reasons
Anger comes from the inside out and really means
the opposite to popular belief – the sufferer is indeed hurting very
much within. Think of how hard it is on you to persist with wanting
to punish the other or others when there is an easier way out.
It has nothing to do with what you are venting it
on.
Say to yourself – when you get upset and hear yourself saying, “I’m
angry” -
Am I hurt?
Am I scared?
Am I frustrated?
Am I Managing Anger?
It is not about yelling, screaming, swearing and being right, but
really means communication has stopped. Expressing it in this
way by very bad behavior is indicating the intense hurt and
scariness within – raging the intense burning fire within!
It means you are assuming a victim role rather than strong, bravado
outward exterior.
Can you relate to these remarks? Am I on the right track?
By reading this page I would like you to assume the change has
already begun – you are beginning to think outside the square and
wanting to help yourself - it’s time to feel proud of achieving your
new state of mind and go forward. Nothing is achieved by holding on
to it and your immune system doesn’t like it either.
Can you add to this article from your previous earlier unwanted
feelings and behavior? Think about it.
It means becoming very aware of your present day thoughts and being
able to cancel, modify or update your rigid thinking. We learn from
life to do the things we do, but can unlearn them where not
appropriate.
By now you may realize that with the unfortunate earlier experiences
in life we no longer need to give them energy or power.
THE PAST HAS NO POWER OVER US UNLESS WE CHOOSE TO STILL GIVE IT
POWER.
As with forgiveness it is a choice in the way we deal with it.
Please read this page in conjunction with the pages on forgiveness
and relationships.
In working for a solution, but please keep these messages in mind.
MY WAY OF HELPING
to come to terms with your inner turmoil and to function much more
appropriately involves a few sessions of counseling along with the
Hypnotic state when you are ready for it. The aim is to learn to
express it appropriately and to release it in way that does not hurt
either you or the other.
The hypnotic state often involves dialogue with the other
significant person (or persons), or can mean getting in touch with
the hurting part and allowing an inner agreement that there are
stronger parts within to overcome your difficulties. Generally I use
the “empty chair technique” that is frequently very effective.
Hypnotically there are many descriptions of “parts therapy”
A
good start is to just allow permission for change and remain
confident that “there is an answer!”
If able to see me then do get in contact.